To be honest we can’t believe we have 6 kids either! There are many times when we say “can you believe we have 6 kids”! This was never a goal or dream for that matter… When we got married 9 years ago we talked about having kids and both agreed we wanted a “big” family. “Big” being 3 or 4 kids…. Never thought 6 would be what we ended up with! But we wouldn’t have it any other way!
When people hear that I have six kids, the reaction is usually entertaining. But we just celebrate how awesome it is to have six kids. Here are a few reasons why we love having 6 kids (I’m sure this list will change as they grow, but for now this is where we are at)
1. It’s not as expensive
Talk about a good hand-me-down situation in the clothing department! The benefit of having Three boys and Three girls is the last couple of babies don’t know what new clothes feel like. Honestly, Kids are as expensive as you make them. I feel we are really getting more bang outta our bucks. stained stroller, filthy crib and tired changing table, I feel like we got a good value for our dollar!
We know they are going to get more expensive as they continue yo grow…. Trust me we’ve already looked into owning our own farm. 2 dozen eggs a week, two gallons of milk a week. two bags of apples, three bunches of bananas… etc. High school sports, heading off to college etc…. Summer jobs and student loans exist for a reason, and I have no problem seeing mine work to earn their educations!
Being able to “afford” children is relative. If you wait until you can afford children you will never have any. It’s a choice. A mindset and a sacrifice at that. We can’t afford a bunch of flashy stuff but we can afford six kids. It’s what your priorities are! If you want the nicest & newest don’t have kids or only have one or two.
2. It will be crazy in your house… But you will raise nice kids!
People often comment that kids from big families seem “nice.” Sure, it’s a generalization… But, one of the reasons they’re nice is because it is difficult to spoil them. Certainly there are children from small families who are not spoiled, but spoiling children in large families is nearly impossible. I simply can’t (and won’t) buy identical high-end expensive toys and gadgets for my kids. Most things they have, they share. I also can’t wait on them hand and foot. If I fetched each kid a snack every time he or she was hungry, I’d be fetching snacks all day long.
Our Older kids help out the younger ones with a bowl of cereal or glass of juice. The fact is, they are fairly independent and helpful – and they have to be if they want to have snacks!
So it would appear that kids who are independent, not materialistic and know how to share seem to be perceived as “nice” by the general population. Just a thought.
3. Here is a straight up fact…We’re Not Sleeping Anyway
The fact is when you have small kids, you’re already lacking sleep, a social life or even time to sit down to eat. You’ve been mistaken for a zombie at work, and you never go anywhere without a diaper bag. An overnight trip requires a suburban packed with the equivalent of your house.. You’re already thick into the parenting lifestyle and a couple of extra kids are not going to make that exponentially harder.
If you’ve gone from one kid to two, you’ve done the hard part. Two to three it’s gone from man to man to zone defense. what’s three more! ha ha
4. We Have A Built-In Entertainment System
The reality is, my kids have built-in playmates. Sure they fight like cat’s and dogs. they scream, run into each other/doors/walls/people but often they disappear into their room or outside for hours. And our HUGE 1,100 square foot home feels every second of them running into everything! Honestly they just happily pass their days being constantly entertained by the fun and antics that surround them with their siblings.
5. Social Life rocks!
They can’t escape socialization – eating together, bathing, and sharing a room etc… My kids live in a close pack and I’m excited they will have each other as they continue into Middle school/High school/College etc.
Also glad the boys are the oldest so they can put the fear into any punk that tries to mess with their sisters… I pity the fool! ha ha
6. Guess Who is Not Going Into a Retirement Home!
That’s right. Those six people can take turns passing Kym and I around. We might even fake a bit of incontinence as payback for the twelve years of diaper changing. And they should consider themselves lucky – they won’t have three human beings in diapers at once, like some of us have.
7. Lastly let me say MY WIFE IS MY HERO!
- Full time stay at home mom. A way harder job than most any job out there!
- Teacher. Homeschooling our three boys and starting Kenzie next year.
- Cook. AMAZING COOK!
- Wife! Beyond more than I could ever ask or hope for in a spouse!
- Check out the next blog for more on this topic!
We love having a large family! We know it’s not the cultural norm these days to have this many kids. But beyond the stares of judgment from those who just don’t get it, the comments from people who mean well but say dumb stuff (family included). We wouldn’t change one thing about our big, real life Brady bunch family!